How Telling the Truth is More Than Morally Beneficial
There is a little dude inside of us always trying to mess us up. It is trying to make us sleep in later, be lazy, eat the unhealthy foods, be selfish, and feel worse. It must be a little dude doing it because I have things to do, and why would I do this to myself? The problem is that this little dude knows everything about me, so I have to stay on my toes to be able to outsmart him and stay two steps ahead. If I can outsmart the little dude, then I can do what is better for me.
One instance where the little dude likes to try and take over is in difficult situations of moral character. Sometimes all you need to do to get out of a tight bind is lie. If you lie, it seems to make everything easier, so the little dude loves to lie. Lying obviously isn’t good though, and it doesn’t make us feel good about ourselves. We have to outsmart the little dude again.
This is where we examine how to do just that. Often, it is easy to think that telling the truth only benefits us on a moral level—that there’s no real gain in it. That’s where the little dude plays, in that belief. The good news is, that belief is wrong. We have just been looking at it in the short term and the wrong angle. Here are five reasons that show us the more than moral benefit of telling the truth. This is how we outsmart the little dude.
You Can’t Learn without Consequences
Have you ever done something wrong and had to pay the consequence for it? Have you ever broken something when you were younger and gotten grounded. Have you ever gotten detention for cheating? The consequences of fessing up are not fun, but they are vitally important. If we do not pay the consequences of immoral action, then it is very likely that we continue down that immoral path.
Learning how to navigate this world using a moral compass is extremely beneficial for our future. If we learn how to lie, cheat, and steal when we are young, then we will grow up only knowing how to navigate life on those terms. We begin to rely on the actions that we know to get us the things that we want. If we lie our way out of the negative consequences, we cannot learn to excel in life through a moral compass.
To excel in life by telling the truth, you have to learn to do so by experience. The consequences of our bad actions put us on the right path while avoiding consequence keeps us on the same destructive one.
The Truth Attracts What You Actually Need
Pretend you are in an intimate relationship, and you are cheating on your partner. Who is really getting the worst of this action? Someone say that the unknowing partner gets the worst of it. In reality, the cheater is.
If you are in a relationship that you feel the need to cheat in, how happy are you in that relationship? You are obviously not fulfilled enough to stay faithful, so why be in it at all? Staying in that relationship would only perpetuate yourself in a relationship where you are not truly happy. It might be your partner or your mindset in general, but you only hurt yourself by staying in those conditions.
If you were to tell the truth, you would probably be single again. This is not a negative thing. You would have to be single in order to either pursue someone that you can be in a relationship without cheating, or you would have to situate your mind to be able to appreciate who you are with less you want to be miserable forever.
More than just in relationships, telling the truth may sting, but it ultimately attracts what you actually need in your life— not always what you want, but what you need.
Too Much Work to Maintain Lies
“If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything” - Mark Twain
When you tell a lie you have to remember who you told it to, when you told it to them, the details of the lie, who else it entails, and so on. The more you lie, the more lies you have to remember in order to keep your story straight. I don’t know about you, but that seems like a lot of work. There are much better things that we can use our mind’s energy on rather than juggling elaborate fiction’s that we constantly twist ourselves into.
We do have a limited amount of energy that we are able to put in every day. We must be conservative and precise as to where we put that energy into. Where focus goes energy flows. Holding on to lies only holds us back from using our full potential towards attaining our goals. In order to make truly great things happen, it is easy to assume that one needs to put all of their energy towards that great thing.
Ultimately, we have to be conscious of where our energy goes. Juggling these lies to avoid a harsh reality is really not worth the energy it saps from us every single day. It would be better to do ourselves a favor and to redirect that energy to greater use.
Lying Keeps You Unfulfilled
Somewhat of a reiteration from before, lying pushes you down a path of instant gratification. When we don’t learn to take the more difficult route to success, we tee ourselves up to never truly be for filled in what we do.
True satisfaction doesn’t come when we receive a gift. It comes when we have to work hard to get something. The pain put in to get something done makes the reward worth achieving. It is not healthy or beneficial to go through life avoiding these pains that lead to our overall satisfaction.
Lying is a perpetuation of this avoidance. The lifestyle that follows along with lying put us further away from what we truly need and want as described before.
Lying Leaves You Alone With Your Lies
The quality of our lives highly depends on the relationships that we make and maintain in that life. When we lie, it furthers us all away from those close relationships they give life its meaning. We could be in a room filled with people we consider close, but a lie is a wall between us and them.
It’s just like they say: Secrets don’t make friends. A lie is a secret with only yourself, leaving you alone in your secret.
Before You Go
Reading through these might make you think, “I don’t want to be someone who has to trick themselves into telling the truth and being a good person.”
I completely understand this view. It feels strange to have to justify or reason towards telling the truth.
It is important to remember that this is just another base covered with that little dude inside of us always trying to mess us up. If we were two steps ahead before, now we are three. If we ever begin to believe in the moment that telling a certain life would be more beneficial, please remember these points. With these points, we can have a moral reason and a logically beneficial reason to tell the truth—putting the odds ever higher in our favor. Make anything but the truth not even stand a chance.