How to Spot A Great Match On Any Online Dating App
Over the past few years, online dating has become completely mainstream, and people of all ages and backgrounds are turning to their smartphones to look for their next partner. According to a study conducted in 2017, nearly 40 percent of heterosexual couples and 60 percent of same sex couples in the United States met online. While online dating is incredibly convenient, it can also be overwhelming. With so many profiles to wade through, it’s difficult to determine who’s actually going to be the best match for you. However, if you slow down your swipe speed and really read each profile, you will start to notice some key differentiators to separate those who are genuinely interested in a relationship from those who might waste your time. Here are 5 things to look for in a potential partner on any online dating site.
They show off their personality in their profile.
There are many people that put together their dating profiles with the goal of appearing as physically attractive as possible, without providing any real information about their personality or their interests. In many cases, these people are often the ones who are only looking for a short-term partner or even a friends with benefits situation. When people are looking for a long-term relationship, they care more about finding someone with a compatible personality, and this shows in their profile.
Be wary of people whose profiles consist entirely of selfies or body shots and don’t contain any descriptions. This is a good reflection of their approach to dating. It’s always a good sign when someone has pictures of themselves at work, having fun with friends, or participating in one of their favorite hobbies, because it shows that they are a well-rounded person and might want to share those parts of their life with you. It’s also promising when someone shares their interests and hobbies in their profile, as well as their sense of humor. Not only is this a great indication that they will be fun and interesting to talk to on a date, but an interesting profile also makes for a great conversation started to get the ball rolling.
They read your profile and ask about it.
Many people take a one-size-fits-all approach to online dating, sending the same opening lines to everyone. This is often an indication that they don’t truly care about getting to know you as a person - they are just trying to go on as many dates as possible. You can nip this in the bud by skipping over anyone who starts with just a ‘hi’ and nothing else. Give extra attention to the people who indicate that they’ve actually read what you’ve written in your profile and ask thoughtful questions about it. This is an indication that they care about more than just what you look like and want to learn more about what you might have in common. Of course, be sure to reciprocate by asking questions about them!’
You share common interests.
Of course, you don’t need to have anything in common with someone for them to be a great partner. However, when you are trying to narrow down hundreds of choices on a dating app, looking for someone who shares your interests is a good way to increase your chances of success. You don’t need to find someone who’s a carbon copy of you, but it’s going to help if, say, you both like spending time outside or you have similar tastes in movies and music. Not only does this make for easy conversation, but it also will make it easier to find fun things to do together when you start hanging out offline.
They’re open to trying new things.
Open-mindedness is incredibly important in the beginning of a relationship. If you are completely stuck in your ways, it’s going to make it difficult to open your life up to a new partner. A good way to narrow down potential partners on a dating app is to look for people who are open to learning and trying new things. You can often tell how open-minded someone is just by asking them what they’re looking for in a partner. Do they have a lot of rules about who they will and won’t date, or are they just looking to meet dates who are kind and fun to spend time with? When people are very specific about the type of partner they are looking for, it often means they will be hard to please later on in a relationship, and it also might make you hesitant to be yourself when you do go on a date - something that’s always a red flag. Another way to see how open-minded someone is is to suggest a unique date idea, or ask them for their most unique first date ideas. Of course, you can have a great first date just by going to a bar, but if they’re equally excited to have fun with you doing something else, it’s a good indication that they’ll be more open to exploring new activities with you as your relationship grows.
They don’t come on too strong.
While a certain level of enthusiasm on a dating app is usually a good sign, it’s important to stay away from anyone who seems overeager, as this could quickly lead to possessive behavior. You can often predict this type of behavior just from their profiles - if they say anything too cocky or act with the assumption that you are going to hook up, stay away. Another important red flag to watch out for is someone inviting you to their house for the first date. You should always meet in public first, not only for your safety, but also so you can both feel like you are on an even playing field. It’s always a good sign when a match is eager to get to know you and see if you get along before taking things to a more romantic level.
Dating apps can be a bit overwhelming at first, but don’t give up if things don’t go perfectly right away. With some practice, it gets easier to narrow down the best matches - and identify which ones aren’t worth your time.