Planting Good Seeds
Human interactions are complex yet subtle. When you walk past someone at home, work, or in public you communicate silently your hidden thoughts are feelings. They bubble to the surface – behind your body language and facial expressions – and speak more loudly and truthfully than your words.
When we walk past someone who has recently rubbed us the wrong way, let’s say they were insulting or inconsiderate, our mind is immediately drawn to that memory. And our sentiments towards them turn cold and cruel out of retribution – it’s the retaliation of stored emotional pain.
For example, imagine that Billy and Suzy bump into each other down by the watering hole. And Suzy believes Billy to be a bit immature – and perhaps a jerk. But she doesn’t want to destroy his fragile sense of ego or create unnecessary conflict at the workplace so she keeps it hidden and tolerates him instead. There’s a certain phoniness that shows itself as a sour look on the face. And the lips say one thing yet mean something else. “How nice to see you!” is really “I can’t wait to not see you.”
The Etheric Field
While we may try to keep the truth hidden, how we actually feel is always communicated silently through the etheric field and that’s impossible to conceal. Whereas one may learn to control their bodily cues with a fake smile and open posture.
The etheric field is your aura, essentially, a bubble (so-to-say) that surrounds you, which contains your subconscious thoughts and feelings, and brushes up against the etheric fields of others.
Try this. The next time someone walks into the room pay attention to their etheric; feel the quality of the energy they resonate. Not their body language, but their vibrancy. Is the life-force that surrounds them bright or is it bleak? Is this person genuine or are they skewed - feeling one thing but expressing the opposite? Observations and perceptions are not the same as judgments.
From Understanding Comes Compassion
Once you begin to notice the life-force of others, you’ll realize how everything leaves an imprint. Every thought, every feeling, reverberates through space and can be consciously perceived. What was heretofore only hinted at through the subtle cues of body and facial expressions can gleam through feeling.
Now imagine Suzy and Billy. As Billy walks into the room there is Suzy; she observes the way that Billy feels – without judgment – and also the way that she feels like a reaction to his presence.
When the observation and perception of another person turn into sour judgment, we acknowledge that as a fact and stop ourselves from continuing further. Instead of planting seeds of judgment, we plant seeds of observation. Through observation comes perception, from perception comes understanding, and from understanding comes compassion.
The Fruits of the Tree
There is a famous bible verse – from the Christian tradition – that says,
“You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes, nor figs from thistles, are they? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit; but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will know them by their fruits.”
And we come to know other people – and ourselves – through the fruits of our actions. And every fruit begins with a seed.
If fruits are actions then the seeds of those fruits are thoughts.
Most of the time our thoughts are subconscious. And because of that we end up manifesting destinies – living lives – that we don’t really want. If every time a bloke walked into the room Suzy judged him too harshly, or let’s say that Billy couldn’t get his act together, they would both walk around oblivious to the reasons why they kept themselves and those around them at arm's length.
When you judge others, they judge you in return, silently or spoken. And a world full of mirrored judgment leaves no room for the reflections of mysteries and explorations into the Unknown. In that state of mind, everything is predetermined by the ego, which fears and lacks a healthy vulnerability. Let go of dead weight mentally by meditating at dawn and sunset, and waking up very early in the morning and walking silently in nature. Brick-by-brick the ivory tower of the ego will begin to crumble. There isn’t room for judgment of others when the self is preoccupied with the analysis and improvement of itself.
There is another well–known verse but from the Native American tradition, which tells the story of an elder explaining to his grandson that there exists – within us all – a battle between two wolves. One born from light while the other lurking within the shadows.
“Which wolf will win?” The grandson asked.
“The one you feed.” The elder replied.
My interpretation of the two is that a thought is a seed, an action is a fruit, and that action is fed to either the wolf of light or the wolf of shadow, alive and at battle within us all.
The World Has Had Enough
In order to stop having senseless conflicts with others, we need to begin to have less and less senseless conflicts within ourselves. A symptom of judging oneself too harshly is a habit of being quick to judge others. We treat the world the way we treat ourselves.
So, the next time you walk past someone, either at home, work, or in public – remember thoughts create actions, actions create the world. And when you bump into someone unexpectedly offer them a movement of silent observation, perception, understanding, and compassion rather than a heartless moment of judgment. The world has enough of that.
If to give someone the evil eye is a form of a curse, then an evil thought will do just the same. A thought free of judgment is a blessing. Silently bless those around you.
Notice that every time you think you are planting seeds. What you sow you reap. Good luck planting good seeds.